The Difficult Choice
The difficult choices are associated with the feeling of loss. Having to let go of something that seems valuable, provides security or that you feel dependent on, is associated with the feeling of loss. Meaning; the difficult choice is associated with something unfamiliar. Uncertainty, doubt and fear.
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Doubt Leads To Inaction
Concerns is followed by doubt on solutions.
Doubt creates lack of action and when you stand still, you become frustrated.
Sometimes you even make the decision too late, because you linger in the fear of making the wrong choice. -
Acknowledge the fear for growth
You use your focus on worrying and analyzing possible forms of loss and the emotions associated with it. You imagine and go through unwanted scenarios - that doesn't even exist, anywhere but in your head. Face your fears. Look into its eyes, embrace it and become friends with it. It doesn’t mean that you will no longer have fear, but that fear no longer has you.
Every time you think something, you signal an energy to yourself and your surroundings. What you load your energy into, will grow. Horror scenarios set up for yourself are starting to feel real. Like nightmares when you are awake. In return, your body reacts with adrenaline, which eats up whatever excess energy you have. Frequent adrenaline-kicks thus lead to less energy and increased fatigue.
Do you see where we are going?
What Is The Best That Can Happen?
When you think of frustrating things, you meet your surroundings with a frustrated energy that reacts according to the energy you emit. You usually get back the same energy which you radiate. Your thoughts amplify themselves and become a negative spiral that makes it impossible for you to make a choice, because you cannot foresee the possible consequences you have loaded your energy into.
You are preoccupied with making the right choice, but you have not spent much time imagining a pleasing scenario. Visualize and imagine the possible happy outcomes, exactly as you had dreamed but did not dare to hope for. Maybe you dare not hope for it, because you do not trust your own ability to make a choice associated with changing a habit? The only thing you just want is to make the right choice.
But what if I revealed to you that:
No matter what you choose, it is the right choice.
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Choices Fuel Growth
Whatever you choose, the outcome is what is needed for you to grow into whatever you have asked for. If you repeat the same opposing decision over and over again, you will continue to be presented with the challenge, until you understand, that you have to make another choice. Whatever you choose, it is the right choice for the development you are going through.
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Set Your Compass—Your Journey Follows
In other words; what happens is what needs to happen, to give you the opportunity to achieve your goal. The learnings that your choices brings, positive as well as negative, help to lift you to where you have set your own compass. If you set the compass to a negative scenario, you automatically steer towards that particular scenario. (Have you gone that route before? - a choice you make over and over again?)
What happens is what needs to happen, in order for you grow.
The only way to break out is to gather the courage to create a new path, or model the existing one. When you choose to walk a different path, over and over again, you create a new road. A new habit which becomes the easier choise. Most likely a better choice.
You can choose to change your behavior and habits to something, that is more enrichening. But it has to be a choice you make over and over again.
The grass is green where it is watered
The saying “the grass is greener on the other side” is actually very misleading.
The grass is green where it is watered. And where there’s sun.
Where the grass gets no nutrients, vital sunlight or water – it dies. Obviously.
Why would you be different? You are also a living creature, that needs water, nutrients and sunlight. And because you have the ability to feel, understand consequences and are aware that you will die someday, you have another layer, which is just as basic needs:
safety, understanding and care.
First and foremost from yourself.
To grow, you need to trust that you are able to make the right decisions for yourself. And that means having to show yourself, that you are capable of dealing with difficult choices.
The reality is that it is your choices that define your options. If you are unhappy with your life, start by looking at the choices you make. Small and big.